Become the leader your kids HONOR and your wife DESIRES.
THE GOOD KING
Forge your path as a man. Step into your true identity and bring peace and thriving to your marriage and your home.
You Were Created For More
Join the men of The Good King and learn how to:
Set clear goals that align with your values.
Live and lead with love.
Walk in union with God through Jesus.
Become a powerful masculine leader who owns his sh*t and stop letting yourself (and others) down.
Be a present and playful dad and inspire your children to reach their full potential.
Connect to an ancient spiritual path that transcends the modern religious structures and actually transforms your life.
See the Kingdom of Heaven emerge in your marriage, your heart, and their home.
Bring peace and flourishing to your home.
Invite your wife into true intimacy and shared adventure.
Lead your marriage and create space for the feminine to arise and flourish.
Transform your identity from an orphan-hearted son to an initiated king.
Speaking the truth about absolutely everything - especially to yourself.
Gain clarity on what your purpose is in life.
Get free from porn and other addictions that keep you chained down and weak.
I feel your pain.
I floundered in porn and sex addiction for 30 years, and tried to fill the longing in my soul with everything I could get my hands on. Lust, porn, illicit sex, drugs, alcohol, church, you name it, I’ve tried it.
None of it worked.
I was transformed and began my initiation into my true identity through a genuine apprenticeship to Jesus Christ.
Three life-changing mentors came into my life and pointed me to the reality of the good news of Jesus.
I had to let go of everything I thought I knew about God, and over the last seven years He has completely changed my life.
The best part?
I’m becoming who I always wanted to be, and didn’t know how to articulate it.
You Were Made In The “Imago Dei” (Image of God)
It’s Time To Start Living Like It
Stop:
Escaping your life in porn, drugs, alcohol, gambling, or social media
Watching another man raise your children and sleep with your wife because you couldn't find your masculine grounding.
Feeling bored and unmotivated in your marriage, family, & career
Wasting years watching porn behind closed doors, feeling guilty and ashamed.
Abdicating the spiritual leadership of your home to your wife
Being lonely and isolated
Missing out on the best years of your kid’s life
Letting anxiety, shame, and depression rob you of the only life you have.
M. Lantz
“Most of my life I floated down the stream of life, going wherever the currents took me, choosing the way of least resistance.
Being a part of The Good King reminded me of who I was created to be. I have become more confident, BOLDER, and gained a new strength. I have started a journey full of vision, risk, love, and beauty And I cannot wait to see where this great adventure takes me.”
The Men of The Good King
“I came to Patrick not knowing how to move forward. I felt stuck and couldn’t see the path forward. Patrick showed me that I needed to live in love. Allow myself to feel God’s love and let it flow through me while seeing love at work all around me. He challenged me to open up my heart, the beautiful desires that God has out there, and live out of my heart instead of my head. I haven’t arrived and I don’t always get it right but I can see the path now. I’ve taken the first few steps and I’m excited to see where it takes me!”
Justin
“I’m starting to notice how many beautiful and good things I experience in my everyday life and it was simply a shift in what I focus on.”
Dathan
“I’m more confident and secure in my masculinity. I’ve let go of past regrets and embraced a more positive and assertive mindset. This transformation has significantly improved my relationships, and overall happiness. It’s not easy to change but it’s so worth it!”
Uriah N
Meet your host:
Patrick Miller
Since my profound initiation into true masculinity began seven years ago, I’ve longed for an authentic experience of men’s community.
I found that a lot of men’s groups lack deep vulnerability or they collapse into a too-soft and mushy mess.
I created The Good King because I want and need this in my own life, and I wanted to offer my life as a service to other men who are on this beautiful, sacred, brutal, and healing journey to whole-heartedness.
I’m forever indebted to men who have gone this way before, men like John Eldredge, Dallas Willard, Morgan Snyder, and many, many, more that have shaped me deeply.
Get grounded in love.
Cut the chains of addiction.
Live from your masculine power.
Bring flourishing and presence to your family.
What’s included in The Good King:
The Roundtable
48 weekly group training sessions (hosted on Zoom). This is the heart of the group where deep transformation, discipleship, and brotherhood happens. Currently meeting on Thursday 8 PM EST and Saturday 7AM EST.
1:1 Guidance
One-on-one guidance session to get you started, with additional guidance available to deepen your walk and hone in on your individual progress or work through challenges.
The Forge
A member’s-only online community where you can know and be known. Help and support when you’re hurting. Challenge and inspiration when you’re ready to grow. You are not made to go it alone. The brotherhood you need.
The Forms
We are always being shaped by our mindset, habits and the objects of our attention. Learn life giving forms that you can put into practice in your life to deepen your walk.
The Course
58 lessons across seven courses. Start with The Foundations, then ourney through the six areas of masculine identity: Son, Apprentice, Warrior, Lover, Sage, & King.
Monthly Challenges
Challenge yourself and sharpen your skills across a wide range of masculine leadership topics. From finances and fitness to marriage and parenting.
The Course
The Good King Course is made up of 58 lessons divided into seven courses centered on the six masculine archetypes.
New members start with The Foundations course, then move into the six courses on masculine initiation.
Weekly Roundtable discussions will provide a time of Q&A, teaching, fellowship, and shared integration. Men at different points of the journey will be able to offer insight and encouragement to those just getting started.
1. The Son’s Awakening
8 Lessons to begin your journey into freedom and masculine inititiation. Moving from an orphan-hearted, striving mindset into the security, trust, and peace of a beloved son.
4. The Lover’s Heart
6 Lessons cultivating the heart of a man who knows how to love fully—God, others, and the world around him. This is where the warrior, who has learned to stand and fight, now learns what is worth fighting for.
2. The Apprentice’s Path
12 Lessons on learning to bring every part of life into alignment with Jesus Christ—body, mind, emotions, will, habits, and rhythms.
5. The Sage’s Counsel
6 Lessons to transition from passion-driven action to wisdom-guided mastery. Learn to operate from deep wisdom, discernment, and spiritual authority—walking in mastery over his own life and offering guidance to others.
3. The Warrior’s Crucible
8 Lessons to move from passively following Jesus to actively contending for the good, the true, and the beautiful. Apprenticeship becomes battle, and we learn to stand firm, fight well, and overcome.
6. Becoming A King
8 Lessons. This is the culmination of the masculine journey. It is not about domination, status, or worldly success, but rather ruling one’s life, family, and sphere of influence with wisdom, love, justice, and strength—mirroring the King of Kings.
The Six Masculine Archetypes
In the stories of biblical masculinity we find six primary archetypes represented. From Abraham and Moses to Gideon, Solomon, David, Paul, and of course Jesus we find a deep well of godly masculine inspiration to draw from.
The Son
Moving from an orphan-hearted, striving mindset into the security, trust, and peace of a beloved son. Learning to live from a place of love instead of fear.
The Apprentice
Learning to bring every part of life into alignment with Jesus Christ—body, mind, emotions, will, habits, and rhythms.
The Warrior
Moving from passively following Jesus to actively contending for the good, the true, and the beautiful. Learning to fight well and overcome.
The Lover
Cultivating the heart of a man who knows how to love fully—God, others, and the world around him. The warrior, who has learned to stand and fight, now learns what is worth fighting for.
The Sage
Transition from passion-driven action to wisdom-guided mastery. Learn to operate from deep wisdom, discernment, and spiritual authority—walking in mastery over his own life and offering guidance to others.
The King
An ascent into mature masculinity—the King stage—where a man fully embodies his identity in Christ, walks in union with God, and expresses His glory in the world in a life of wisdom, service, love and strength.
The Roundtable
The Roundtable is our weekly apprenticeship training. A group video call open to members only. A time of teaching, fellowship, and camaraderie.
Our course of study is 48 lessons, delivered one lesson per week over the course of 12 months.
In the course we journey through the six masculine archetypes, seeking to formed by Jesus throughout each phase of a man’s life: The Son, the Apprentice, the Warrior, the Lover, the Sage, and the King.
You can start your journey at any time throughout the calendar year.
Jesus began his ministry by preaching that “…the kingdom of heaven is at hand.” (Matt. 4:17).
The right time is now.
The kingdom is at hand.
FAQs
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There are other excellent courses available online to help you get free from porn or improve your marriage.
This is not a self-improvement course.
This is a journey of transformation focused on being apprenticed to Jesus Christ.
The combination of the group dynamic along with the journey of masculine initiation and apprenticeship to Jesus make this a unique, life-changing rite of passage.
Jesus taught that when we are discipled to Him, we will be liberated and have life abundant.
This goes beyond just getting free from porn or changing a bad habit.
This is a journey to discover your true identity in the One who made you.
You will become more of who you always wanted to be, but didn’t know how to articulate.
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I use the term guidance to refer to my work for a reason, but the terms are mostly interchangeable.
Coaching implies a “Point A to Point B” journey, and that’s not concept that resonates with the Kingdom of Heaven idea of moving into deeper union with God and embodying a more profound experience of that relationship.
I think of myself as a kingdom guide, or in biblical terms, a disciple maker.
In the New Testament, the idea of making disciples implied that one’s whole life should reveal the deeper nature of the kingdom of God.
That’s what I aspire to.
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Our culture - even Christian culture - has lost many of the rights of initiation that prepare a man to step into his true identity and calling.
Many men blindly follow the path of least resistance offered to them by their culture and family of origin, never facing a true masculine initiation.
As a result, men are struggling in a crisis of meaning, frustrated by the chains that bind them. Chains of addiction and anxiety, resentment, and a feeling lost in life. Lacking purpose in life, we reach for the destructive fruits of pleasure, lust, comfort, and material possessions to fill the gaping hole in our hearts.
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Masculine Archetypes are universal patterns of character, behavior, and identity that express different parts of mature masculinity.
Throughout the Scriptures, literature, and history we can identify six key identities or types that a well rounded man embodies throughout the journey of his life.
The Son
The Apprentice
The Warrior
The Lover
The Sage
The King
There are always parts of us that need to be initiated more deeply in love and grow more like Jesus.
The six archetypes are a useful framework to help us make sense of where we are on our journey and inspire us to greater wholeness.
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The Way of The Good King is for men age 24 - 64 who desire to deepen their faith walk, walk in freedom from addiction, anxiety and sin. For men who long to find the fire in their belly, and feel the true joy of being alive.
Many men are tired of being told to sit down and be good. Men are made for more.
The Way of The Good King is designed to help you find that.
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The Roundtable is the name of our weekly online group coaching sessions.
The men of The Good King meet via Zoom once per week for instruction, fellowship, and camaraderie.
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A total of 58 Lessons delivered weekly, the lessons are based on the examples of true biblical masculinity. Learning from Moses, Abraham, Joseph, David, and other godly men of old, and culminating in the ultimate example of biblical masculinity: Jesus.
The course lessons and coursework are hosted in our Skool community. -
The Forge is the name of our community group chat.
It’s where we discuss what we’re learning, share our wins and our challenges, ask questions, and share memes.
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The Forms are daily practices you are invited to implement in order to deepen your faith, make contact with reality, and heal your mind, body, and soul.
Men who struggle with addiction or anxiety or who are experiencing a crisis of meaning frequently have very poor personal daily habits.
We are assaulted with many things vying for our attention that rob us of our peace.
The forms provide a starting point for an embodied practice that leads to greater health and flourishing.
The forms are no-or-low cost patterns and disciplines that will form your character and create space for you to hear from God.
Not everyone will practice all of the forms all the time. As you grow and mature, you may find these forms can grow with you.
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One 1:1 coaching session is included in your annual group membership.
Members have access to discounted “members only” pricing for additional coaching sessions.
Learn more about 1:1 coaching on the 1:1 coaching webpage.
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This journey is not fore every man.
Some men are looking for a quick fix, or another band-aid to put on the wound in their soul.
Their suffering has not been sufficient to spur them to take a transformational journey.
Other men will insist on holding too rigidly to their current worldview, God-view, and self-view and will resist the necessary transformation.
Yet others will insist on trying harder to be good , white-knuckling their sobriety, and hoping It gets better sometime.
This is not for them.
A Fully Initiated Man Walks Differently
He knows he is a beloved son.
He follows Jesus with his whole life.
He has faced his battles and does not flinch in hardship.
He loves deeply and fiercely.
He has grown wise and can counsel others.
He walks in the full stature of a man under God’s authority, radiating His glory.
This is a roadmap for transformation, not just another course.
It is a call to real, tangible initiation into the Kingdom of God as a man fully alive.
